My first longterm girlfriend went spare that I put interested in men and women on Facebook way back when in 07' (do the maths, I never went "steady" till my early 20's!!!!)
I was just being friendly and misunderstood the options on the social media info page. Why would i discriminate friends based on their gender? The whole situation raised some important issues in my choice of a life partner though.
Don't get me wrong I loved her to pieces - too much if anything. When I'm obsessed over my partner I could squeeze her to death. Falling in love with somebody with OCD is like . . . well it's not like anything you have experienced. Don't knock it till' you've tried it.
The cracks where there, in the relationship and in our heads. Why arn't I allowed to buy a pink phone now that I have a relationship status? Why can't I wear nail varnish around your dad? Who am I suppost to be impressing today?
SCREW THAT, I am who I am, like me or leave me.
My dress (mis)sense has been the topic of many a conversation with "in-laws". From my bestest glitteriest relationship, it was constant banter over my shiney shoes, yet knowbody flinched over smudged eye liner.
That is the goal people, being yourself while simultaneously being accepted. I will respect you when I am in your house, but I'm coming as me. I will change when and if I want to, but tippy-toeing around ain't my style.
The nail varnish has been retired for a while now (only making appearances at dress up occassions) but eyeliner and eyeshadow are a regular feature of my morning rituals.
DoI have to explain why? No, but feel free to ask.
*this post was wrote with a smile on my face, no anger intended*
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